Invite Love and Authenticity into your relationships
We reached a time in evolution when simply teaming up to meet our basic needs for food, shelter, and security is not enough anymore.
Instead, modern relationships move beyond biological needs into the realm of psychological and spiritual fulfillment.
A full-on journey where each companion commits to courageously expand their ability to love and accept another (and themselves) completely.
However, given that individual expansion is not an easy and sparkly process, modern relationships can be as much of a challenge as a gift.
Nonetheless, the reward is a relationship that meets our most fundamental needs for security, love, belonging, and personal development.
It takes commitment to growth; being responsible for your own emotional state, health, and intelligence; and the ability to listen and speak with an open heart to another (one of the most transformative features of a relationship).
However, when two individuals come together and commit to this path of evolution they have an opportunity to expand themselves beyond what they could do alone.
Commitment to Growth
The truth is that we’re here on this earth to grow.
Physical, psychological, and spiritual expansion is our soul’s main purpose.
This means that in order to continuously bring love and aliveness to any relationship, each partner ought to learn to favor striving towards expansion (even at the risk of out-growing the relationship).
Ultimately, soul-based relationships are a crusade of two everchanging spiritual beings' self-discovery and realization.
Meaning that the only way to sustain enduring love is by learning to welcome change into the relationship and strive for total creative expression as an individual and a couple.
Bonding closely with another person will inevitably trigger emotional wounds from the past.
This means that in order to sustain love and authenticity in the relationship, both partners need to be willing to look at and own their own issues, concerns, and wounds.
Claiming full responsibility for how events turned out helps to dissolve old dysfunctional patterns and prevents time and energy to be wasted in empty attempts to find blame and fault.
Additionally, this commitment to bring awareness to your ego-defensive mechanisms as they emerge progressively turns defensiveness into authenticity.
Truth and Authenticity
The foundation of genuine love rests on letting ourselves (and others) be truthfully and unapologetically ourselves.
Certainly, this art of welcoming all feelings in the conversation is edgy and not easy to do.
In fact, the process of melting those walls around our hearts and open up to our most profound feelings and thoughts can be quite challenging (and even infuriating at times).
Especially the part where we are supposed to share and reveal the parts of us that we are ashamed or afraid to share (funny enough, those parts seem to be "called in" over and over by our partner).
Nevertheless, The opportunity to fully integrate our physical, psychological, and spiritual dimensions is invaluable.
The key here is to remember the beautiful words of the Irish philosopher John O’Donohue:
"You can never love another person unless you are equally involved in the beautiful but difficult spiritual work of learning to love yourself."
Because it's only when you discover the deeper universal love within that a completely different kind of love emerges.
A love rooted in acceptance, appreciation, and ultimate freedom.